Narcissists are commonly egotistic and only pay attention to their demands being met.
They repeatedly think and speak about themselves and hardly put other people’s feelings or demands into thinking.
They usually behave as if they are authorised to do everything and have a constant need to be the greatest at everything.
If we often become involved with a narcissist, after a bit of time, we will begin to feel like we have already lost our power.
To protect ourselves and retrieve our power, finding a way to say “no” to them and maybe start the “no contact” with them is essential.
Narcissists are usually afraid of rejection and might get very angry if we ignore them or take a break from their stratagem.
If you say “no” to a narcissist, they will feel displeased if you are not always available.
They might not convey their dissatisfaction at first or in a straightforward way, but instead, they will wait for the best moment to avenge. They will sometimes try to guilt trip you for not being accessible and might give you passive-aggressive behaviour.
Rejection is difficult for almost everyone; we might be pathetic, resentful, or even furious. Regardless, when it is about the narcissist, their response will be much more robust since they dwell on believing they are exceptional to others.
Since narcissists are very concentrated on themselves but still do not have an accurate portrayal of themselves, if we do not feed them with regular attention, they will feel hurt by our rejection.
What Happens If You Go No Contact With A Narcissist?
When you cut off all contact with them, they are compelled to face their behaviour, which might even get them angry or aggressive.
It is no pleasure to cut off all contact with a narcissist; it may even cause them to stay away from the victim.
When you leave them, they unintentionally go through a process of defeat which has the possibility of tearing them down.
Here are a few things that cutting off contact will do to a narcissist:
• They will do anything they can to boost the reputation of their way of thinking.
They will endeavour to make you feel guilty; they may treat you even worse by attempting to win people over by telling them you are negative.
They will ignore your limit and overlook the probability of losing contact.
• They will always try to talk to you, call, and leave many messages to win you over. This gesture can also be inverted into being hostile toward you. In short, they will try many modes of manipulation they have done in the past.
• They might engage in playing the victim card to earn your compassion. This is a common strategy they use to be accessible to you. It is essential to know that reacting when they start trying to gain access back to you is not compulsory.
A narcissist who does well with attention and assurance might get overwhelmed by no contact. He could think you neglect and chastise him and then prepare some avenging and self-destructive reaction.
No Contact Narcissist Reaction
No contact certainly has a destructive impact on narcissists. It depends on the condition of your relationship and the existence of other bases of narcissistic supply.
A narcissist can respond in several ways; he might not be affected by it, get angry, sad, or mean, and do anything to gain confirmation.
A narcissist’s reaction is highly based on his character, intense emotions, and how exploited he feels.
The more fooled he feels and the less power he has over his motions, the increased the odds that he will respond intensely to no contact and attempt to make you accessible for the intention of self-validation. In most scenarios, narcissists do not leave their prey that effortlessly and will do anything to win them over again.
They might tell you they are struggling to get your sympathy. Once they can access you, they will try to manipulate your feelings.
They might implore you to speak to them or talk about how much heartache your being away has caused them. This is also one of their manipulation schemes.
Do not forget that a narcissist does not care about you; all that matters to them is how you can feed their appetite for affection.
With no contact, a narcissist has no choice but to use calls and texts, which can be abstract and unconcerned.
It is tough to send a text that expresses the abysm of the deception they require to feel verified and that they are prevailing in the discussion, the relationship, or the perspective.
Life is more like a game to them; you are the player.
They determine if you can proceed to the next stage and when you fail. Physically, they can also review your body language to see how they are fairing in the round.
How Long Can A Narcissist Go With No Contact Before They Reach Back Out To You?
Narcissists can go weeks without talking to you because you need them more. This stage only lasts briefly since keeping their mask in place is hard for them.
And most times, the no-contact never ends. The narcissist will usually return to you immediately after the no-contact rule starts.
Considering how critical their self-esteem is to them and how much they need that steady attention, they would return for you immediately.
They might continue their approach even if you asked them pleasantly the first few times. Thinking about how punctured their ideas about themselves are, narcissists assume you need them basically as they need you.
So, they may be unable to comprehend why you do not want to be accessible after implementing the no-contact law.
No contact with a narcissist is a significant way to put your life back together. Still, you must make sure that you are prepared for the attacks that will come next.
Because for the narcissist, getting in touch after no contact is a sine qua non. If they do not get in touch, it might be because they have acquired over you or reached another narcissistic supply fount.
They may have set up a new supply basis but had a row with them, and now they want to get something from you.
Your most promising approach is to neglect them the same way they ignored you before. Going no-contact with them lets them know you are not a possible supply basis.
Usually, they are just trying out your perseverance, coming into your life to see if you’ve overlooked how toxic your relationship with them was and whether you are in a helpless condition enough to take them back.
How To Make A Narcissist Come Running Back
Even though narcissists are headstrong, they hardly go after people; you can make them crawl back to you. You can accomplish this if you know the right thing to do, even though it seems unattainable. They can’t stay with being inaccessible to you, and they can go to any length if you ignore them.
Make them feel like you do not care about them and make them see that you are better off with them. It won’t take long before they return to you because you already have them thinking about why you are living well without them. Narcissists do not like seeing their victims happy; it infuriates them. They immediately develop the yearning to end your joy; they can only achieve this by returning to your life.
And now that you have set the scene for them to come crawling back, they will try to get in touch with you, but they won’t make it look like they are enthusiastic about coming back to you. Now, when they come back, do not react. Their ideal mission is to drag you down back to the ordinary level. They aim for you to remain frightened and be someone with low self-esteem who accepts that nothing is going on for them.
How Do Narcissists Feel When You Move On?
To narcissists, life is a game, and they are here to win. When you end your relationship with them, they are not expecting it, so they will do everything they can to bring you back to themselves.
Not because they particularly want you; they only want to take the triumph. They are persistent and will not give up a fight if they haven’t won yet.
Moving on from them means you are trying to cut their narcissistic supply, eventually activating extreme anger within them.
They respond to the remorse they usually experience when their insecurities are triggered and exhibit passive-aggressive behaviour.
Narcissists are not competent in self-consideration; they will blame you instead.
They like to control every aspect of their partner and other people’s lives, so the fact that you moved on from them will make them feel defeated. Once they realise this has happened, they will want to seek revenge.
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Conclusion
You have been through a lot; once you allow a narcissist to get hold of you again, you await total ravage.
As the narcissist is making efforts to make you accessible to them, they are also planning on how you will never slip through their hands again, so once you decide to move on, do not look back ever.
They have nothing to offer you; how they feel after you leave is less of a worry. Once they can’t get to you, they will look for a new victim.
